Friday, December 30, 2005

Hi everybody! Just checking in... I am doing really well...
I am feeling pretty emotional about being discharged from the hospital
because I don't want to leave Toby. But I will probably stay here most
of the days and sleep at Leah's at night until Tobias comes home...
He is the sweetest thing. He is bringing healing to my heart.... His
big brother finally figured out today that Toby is no longer in Mommy's
belly AND this baby is named Toby.... waiting for the connection.
No, I am not resting enough. I am drinking plenty of water, however.

Fear not, the blog will live on!

Thursday, December 29, 2005


Gottcha! (Toby's first picture)

"What happened?"

Big Boy!

First Contact, what a trip

Add a mustach and you got Calvin Stanley...

"Please don't put me down again."

"Some clothes please?"
Toby is doing much better! He came off the ventilator at 10:30 am. He is still on a nasal canula and has a feeding tube. Jessica got to hold him for about 2 hours, which he seemed to like sooooo much. During this time Grandma and Leah got to see him, and lucky 'ol Daniel happen to be here, and got a peak. He's still not totally stable yet. If he maintains doing so well, it may be open season tommorow, and the glorious child shall be on display. Of corse all who are sick, or recently sick, or have someone in their home who is sick, or know someone who is sick (everything except the last one) shouldn't see him. Any visitors are welcome today! We love everybody, I am running to the store (driving) to get a cable so we can upload the much sought after pictures, and I am eager to display them! Very cool... check in around 2:30 - 3pm to see the pictures... blessings - Richy

P.S. thanks to all who warred in prayer last night. It felt like a very crucial time of prayer for all of us who were praying. I believe the Lord did something powerful!

12/28/05 7:45 4lbs 14oz
Pictures coming soon.

Toby is having some hard time absorbing oxygen. He is currently on a
ventilator which is basically doing half the work for him. Jess and I
were hoping to have a free for all visitation today, however, because
he is not stable yet, we feel it wouldn't be good to have a lot of
people come see him right now. Everybody can visit us, it just may be
a while for everyone to see Toby. (He is currently in the NICU) The
pictures I will post (as soon as I get my dv cable from home) are

Jess is having a real hard time with this, because she is not allowed
to feed Toby until he stabilizes, plus he wants his mommy and doesn't
understand what is going on etc...
Despite his breathing issues, he looks really good to me. He looks
like a big baby. He's looking around great, and before the ventilator
went in, he was crying great too!
I've decided he looks the most like Calvin Stanley, with his body frame.

Thank you all for your prayers. Leah asked me last night what the word
I got concerning him when Jess was 18 weeks in pre-term labor and it's
from John 14- 16 "In this world you will have tribulation...but my
peace I leave with you." Toby's name was to mean peace, (middle name
Paxton) . So we are in some tribulation, however, I believe we have a
promised victory. May Tobias be with his mommy before the year is
over! Glory! - Richy

Wednesday, December 28, 2005

It's morning.... and I don't know what to do.
I am allowed to get up.... but what then?
This is new. At this point I am still within the confines of my longtime prison bed.
The MOG is in the living room... there's an 85% chance he's praying and a 15 he's looking at a studio catalog. No chance whatsoever that there is breakfast going on in there.
The kid is sleeping. I know this because I can hear him breathing from anywhere in the house....
And you, my esteemed friends, are usually about your business till after 9.


How about this topic: what was your favorite present and why? And if you didn't get it because it cost $10,000, why would it have been the perfect present?
What.... does a man really need?

Tuesday, December 27, 2005

I was right.... he's just hanging in there by a barely. Dr Reed said if
I start having contractions every 10 minutes get to the hospital
Dilated between 3-4 and he is at +1....

WOOHOOO! Now watch him copy Isaac and stay in another 6 weeks.

I have a doctor's appointment today... I'm actually looking forward to
hearing what's going on in there. I am not sure--- you see, this guy
Tobias is a character. For over 4 months now, he keeps saying, "RED
settles in sweetly for weeks while Mommy pulls out her hair....
then nothing.

and so forth. So despite the fact that it feels like he is only still
in there because he's hanging by his foot from my rib, I'm not buying
We shall see...
but I do suspect some drama and comedy going on in there. Him and the
Big Guy in the sky just yukkin it up.

Monday, December 26, 2005

34 weeks!

  • Your baby acts completely like a newborn, with his eyes opened when awake and closed when sleeping. You may also find him settling into more of a routine for sleeping & awake times.
  • He has learned to blink. He can also see more clearly when there is a bright light on your stomach and probably has the outline of all your organs memorized!
  • Antibodies from your blood are being tranferred to him. These immunities continue to build until birth. Then breastmilk will add even more protection against disease.
  • Your baby may have already turned to a head-down position in preparation for birth. If he is your first baby, he may be settling into the pelvis with his head pressing against your cervix.
  • Fingernails have reached the end of the fingertips now. He may scratch her face even before she is born!
  • Your little one's length is 17.7 inches (45cm) and weight is 4.7 pounds (2146 g).

    Now, again... we know that Toby is bigger than this!! Today's the day I quit bedresting! Hooray! (I already snuck out and saw Narnia on Friday..... hee hee hee)
    So I don't know what I'll do. I've never been at the part where it's ok to go into labor before... a little nervous about what do I do now....
    But I'm very excited! YAY 34 weeks!
  • Sunday, December 25, 2005

    I am sleepwalking
    I'm hoping that maybe
    if I tiptoe softly enough
    then you will come
    And not just be another
    sweet dream faded too soon

    Maybe if I don't wake up
    You will come
    and be the substance
    of this hope

    Maybe if I don't want you too much... maybe if I close my eyes... maybe
    if I sleep
    Then you can come and fill my arms
    and I can be at peace

    Friday, December 23, 2005

    Probably not much going to happen in here today.... everybody have a
    very Merry Christmas!

    Thursday, December 22, 2005

    I miss my sassy little blonde hair. This hair is nice.... but who ever

    wanted to be nice? I want to be dangerous.
    But, the matronly brown hair will stay until I am a little skinny
    shrimp again.

    Last night I broke out of here and went to Richy's class. I laid down
    in the car, and I laid down in the class.... basically the same as all
    my life except there were other people there. It was a nice break.

    So I think we established yesterday that many of the male stereotypes
    are based in truth.... interesting.

    I am almost bored, people. This is so unnaceptable for a yablonski...
    I'm holding out but barely.

    Wednesday, December 21, 2005


    guys day continues...

    • Guys will not ask for directions
    • Guys think about "it" all the time
    • Guys like blow'em up movies, hate romantic comedies
    • Guys can't cook
    • Guys like sports
    • Guys like women to have long hair
    • Guys don't cry
    • Guys leave the seat up
    • Guys like to eat meat.... especially red meat

    now, ladies, this is not the time to defend your man. Your input can be other guy myths or stereotypes that I forgot.
    Men... are they true?

    NOTE: this is not meant to be attacking in any way... I'm just wondering how guys feel about male stereotypes and whether some are true...

    Tuesday, December 20, 2005

    Kai Nelson

    This morning I had a lovely sleep. Now I am awake and I can't think of
    anything to blog about.

    I have a great picture of Kai (Leah's baby) but I don't have the cord
    to upload it yet.... so later on that.

    Maybe it's the drugs... I have never known my mind to be so
    consistently blank. But there you go.

    Monday, December 19, 2005

    My appointment was good... cervix is still dilated to 3 so the plan is
    chill for this week and then next week I should be a freebird! WOOHOO!

    And Crystal and Isaac are doing great... relatively painless delivery +

  • Amniotic fluid is at its highest level during your pregnancy.
  • Your baby's head size has increased 3/8ths of an inch due to rapid brain growth.
  • Neurons and synapses are developing in huge numbers -- forming connections in your baby's brain will give him the skills he needs to thrive as a newborn. This week, he may be able to coordinate sucking and swallowing with breathing.
  • While most of his bones are hardening, his skull is quite pliable and not completely joined. The bones will be able to move slightly to make birthing easier.
  • Your baby takes intermittent deep breaths -- of water! That's okay, though since he gets oxygen from the placenta. This breathing exercises muscles and encourages his lung cells to produce more surfactant (a protein essential for healthy lung development).
  • Your infant is now 17.2 inches (43.7cm) long and weighs 4.23 pounds (1918gm).

    Now, actually Toby was this big last week... so he's probably a little closer to 4 and a half pounds now!

    Got a call last night Crystal was headed to the hospital... not sure of today's update yet
    I have been feeling bummed about missing the Christmas season... I have decorations at home but it's just different not being out in it... buying presents and hearing the music everywhere.... I was so sad to have to stay home from the Christmas banquet, I cried.
    BUT last night the Christmas banquet came to me! The whole choir and the video--- and the water glass Carolers.... the whole show! It was so awesome and so fun... Pam and John Crouse are the greatest... I feel like I got to have some Christmas season right here in my house.

    Dr's appointment today. Pray that I don't get re-hospitalized for my final week of bedrest!
  • Saturday, December 17, 2005

    all is well... same ol same ol

    just killin time till 34 weeks...

    Friday, December 16, 2005

    Sorry folks.. I was resting and eating and such

    Well, I would have had a very comfy sleep. But this terbutaline pump
    I'm hooked up to ran out of medicine at 5 am or so and started
    beeping.... and the powers that be have still not granted me refills.
    So I had to take the oral terbutaline which makes me miserable and
    shaky. So maybe I can catch up on sleep later.

    Congrats Julie on 32 weeks and Crystal on 39 __ holy cow!

    Thursday, December 15, 2005

    Wahoo! Jess and I felt this morning that we've had enough. She's been having no contractions for 4 or so days, and living here hasn't been that great. So she asked the doctor, the doctor checked her cervix and it was the same, at 3 cm. So were packing up awaiting discharge for the Hospital. Yahoooooo! Thanks for all your prayers...

    I think this is day 8 of my hospital confinement, with a break Saturday
    afternoon and night.
    I feel the same. I have occasional contractions, nothing new.
    I am tired of being in this bed. I need a dose of gratefulness.
    This has been such a long pregnancy and I know that in the end it will
    all be so worth it. I just feel a little tired and emotional today.
    Pray for grace for me to finish this race... I want to go home on
    Christmas Eve still pregnant.


    Wednesday, December 14, 2005

    Here is a little pictorial of our hospital journey...

    Great news! From the ultrasound, Toby is over 4 pounds! HOORAY!!

    miserable and wretched on magnesium

    finally got my boy back!

    at the shower

    animals are our friends

    life is sweet

    R2's sleeping quarters

    Daddy and Richy do some work
    I will post updates if anything changes. Until then, take it away, blokes.

    Tuesday, December 13, 2005

    No real update here... I am waiting for some medication.... the home
    health nurses and the hospital nurses are at war and I appear to be in
    the crossfire... oh, and Dr Reed has been stomping around threatening
    In the meantime, here I lay or lie.
    12 days to my escape.

    Monday, December 12, 2005

    My ultrasound was good. Besides the painfully full bladder part...
    Toby looks very happy and cute and slightly chubby.... YAY
    R2 has now joined us at the hospital and is very noisily eating chips.
    All is well, still in a holding pattern.

    My ultrasound was good. Besides the painfully full bladder part...
    Toby looks very happy and cute and slightly chubby.... YAY
    R2 has now joined us at the hospital and is very noisily eating chips.
    All is well, still in a holding pattern.
    32 weeks is a huge milestone. From here on out, Toby basically just gains weight. Everybody up here at the hospital is relieved to be here.... in 2 weeks they would probably not stop labor if it started again.
    I am feeling very hopeful. If I delivered him today, any complications or delays would be unlikely. However, he would have to stay here at the hospital until he got big enough to come home. So we're contending for a post-Christmas baby.

    Week Thirty-Two

  • Your baby is up to 3.75 pounds (1702gm) now and is 16.7 inches (42.4cm) long.
  • You might notice he's not moving around as much now. Don't worry! He is fine -- just running short on room. He still has plenty of growing to do though, believe it or not!
  • All five senses are working. Your little one is fascinated and practicing testing these out as much as possible!
  • Toenails are completely formed
  • Hair on your infant's head continues to grow in.
  • Brain scans have shown that babies have periods of dream sleep (REM) starting around the eight month. What do you suppose your son is dreaming about?

    Thanks everyone for praying. Please continue to pray for us- we need patience and peace as we wait for this blessing.
  • Sunday, December 11, 2005

    Last night when we got back to the hospital .... we got sent home.
    There was some wackiness about insurance re-admitting us and blah blah
    So rather than risk the hospital billing us directly, Dr Reed told us
    to just go home and call her this morning. This was very happy because
    I got to look at all my beautiful baby presents and read your cards.
    I had a rough evening, drugged myself to sleep and have felt pretty
    good today but still having sporadic contractions and feeling like Toby
    may be lower...
    So Dr R is readmitting us to watch me. I feel like I will probably stay
    for the duration.
    I'll be 32 weeks tomorrow.... that's kind of a magic number for

    so we had one night in our sweet little house... it was a nice break.
    Will update as events warrant. Unless they drug me severely. Then Richy
    will update.

    much much love and appreciation for everyone.

    Saturday, December 10, 2005

    Well, howdy! This is Jess posting on Terbutaline. It's kinda like
    mainlining caffeine.
    My hands, they shake
    My head, I can't finish sentences


    condition update: I had few or no contractions overnight... I am now on
    a terbutaline pump that attaches to my leg and dispenses medicine
    continuously. As far as we know my cervix is unchanged and I am pretty
    If some of your worst fears are that I will go into labor at the
    shower, well, it's possible. But it's a risk we and our doctor feel
    fine about taking.
    I passed one test (fetal fibronectin) that says I should not go into
    real labor for at least 2 weeks... we'll see how accurate that is but
    today I feel confident that Jesus wants me to go to my party!

    We're in the process of figuring out how to get out of here... Dr Reed
    wrote a pass but the hospital supervisor doesn't do passes anymore so
    we may have to get discharged and then come back tonight and be
    Or maybe we'll just break out of here in my hospital gown, fanny to the
    wind and to HECK with the consequences.... just kidding. It's all just
    legal mumbo jumbo at this point. See you there!

    Thursday, December 8, 2005

    It's 10:23pm Thursday, Jess is looking good. She has had very few contractions in the last few hours. And is in good spirits! We are very hopeful about the shower saturday.
    I however had a hard time. I locked R2 in the car at McDonalds, with the car running. The humorous part was that I could not get him to open the lock, many strangers came by with a fresh additude of convincing him that he could open the lock. (as people have always been, in dealing with his special needs) I also locked my cell phone in the car, which has roadside assitance. As you know, it is freezing out side, and I was not dressed for it. (flip flops and swim shorts,.... not really, I would just would have prefered a few more layers of clothing) I had to ask someone to borrow their cell phone. After about 15 min I was able to get a hold of Jessica who sent her mom, and a lock smith toward me. After about 30 min, I figured they must have the wrong McDonalds. I strongly convinced a McDonalds employee that I needed to use HIS cell phone, and not the pay phone which was on the other side of the store, because my kid was locked the car without the heat on, (I turned out to be a good temperature inside the case you're worried) I then called Linda, and sure enough they were at the wrong McDonalds! About this time, all my stranger "helper" people left, knowing I was going to get help. I then knelt on the pavement facing r2, it was then that he starting crying very sad. I hated not being able to do anything for him. Finally, Linda, and then the locksmith guy showed up, and got the car open. It was not cold at all inside the car. And R2 was feeling better, and laughing when I showed him how to open the lock. (He did it twice on his own, once I was in the car) When I got to the hospital here, I suddenly felt a huge emotional weight. (Girls will like this conversation) I've had to cry, and had to write about it. I didn't think it was a big deal, besides the fact that I have no meat between my skin and bones, so I got very very cold. But it was really all the feelings of being unable to help r2 through all of his struggles. Seeing my twins struggle and not able to help them, and now in this scenerio with Tobias. Ultimatley I understand we cannot claim control over anything, for "By Him all things are held together, and by Him all things consist:" However, sometimes I find my self wanting so bad to protect my children. May our hope remain in the Lord who holds all things together. Thank you all for your prayers and love. We all need people.

    Finally saw a doctor at 2pm ish... Jessica's cervix looks the same. 3cm. (that's good) The doctor is happy, and optimistic that we could go a few days to longer. ( I prefer longer ) She is still having contractions, now about one every 15 min. But it appears they are not strongly effecting her cervix. They are going to try to put her on a different medicine in the morning, Turbutaline w/ a pump. She did mention the possiblity of a hospital pass for Saturday assuming everything is going well.
    So we are doing well, hoping to stay were we are for a few weeks. Keep praying! Thank you to everyone! We'll let you know here, if there is an update. Otherwise, we are just waiting. Blessings, Richy
    Hello all, this is Richy typing for Jess, I mean, not right now, this is me. In a moment it will be Jessica.

    Jessica says:
    "Yesterday I went to a routine doctors appointment and found out that I was dilated to 3 cm. I also got a 3D ultra-sound which I will post later. Then off we went to the hospital. I hate it here. Pray for patience. "

    So folks, that all Jessica has to say.
    Last night around 5 pm she was having contractions at 2 min apart! By 11:30 pm they had basically stopped. I think perhaps more prayer than medicine. However, things are looking better. We haven't talked to a doctor yet. We still won't till the after noon. They will check her cervix, and we will be able to post. Being the computer genius that I am, we now have internet access on my laptop in the L&D room. We are praying that she stabilizes enough to go to her baby shower this Saturday. The doctor told us yesterday that they may make an exception for us. Jess and I both don't like being here. But we are praying for patience. She doesn't want visitors right now because she feels so bad (from the drugs) , and talking causes contractions. I will be checking the blog if anyone has any questions. Joy! and thanks for all your many prayers and intercessions. My faith is going UP! - Richy

    Wednesday, December 7, 2005

    My appointment today is around 2.... so I may not do the update before you worker bees leave work.

    Gentlemen, she's all yours.

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    Tuesday, December 6, 2005

    My doctor's appointment is tomorrow... so I will be here today. I am
    currently waiting for the nurse to come and give me my shot. She was
    supposed to come yesterday, but I went to McDonald's instead. So there
    you go.

    I want to get our pictures taken... you know, like in a studio. I was
    thinking Picture People but some people have said Sears is better and
    so forth....
    I want multiple poses so that gets confusing...
    these are the thoughts in the mind of Morning Jessica
    what will I eat for breakfast since Richy did not shop?
    what will I drink since tap water is poison and all we have is tea??
    (I've had tea this morning and now have sugary-fungus mouth)
    what time is the nurse coming? Should I get up and shower?
    how can I get some donuts from Starbox?
    and so forth....


    Monday, December 5, 2005

    Week Thirty-One

  • The rate of physical growth slows down just a bit, but even though he doesn't get much longer, he will gain a lot of weight the rest of the pregnancy.
  • Fat continues accumulating. This layer of fat turns his skin from red to the rosy pink he will have as a newborn.
  • Calcium, phosphorus and iron are being stored and his bones are growing and hardening.
  • Your baby is 16.2 inches (41.1cm) long and weighs 3.3 pounds (1502gm)
  • His brain enters another period of rapid growth, producing hundreds of billions of new nerve cells! Amazing!
  • He may move to the rhythm of music. Studies with heart rates show that he also prefers some types of music to others -- already!
  • Lungs are the only major organ left to complete development. Remember, that while you may be anxious to meet your little one that these last few weeks can be vital - with each day increasing your baby's ability to breathe on his own.

    So how do I feel? Elated at passing this milestone... giddy about my baby shower THIS weekend... emotional and a little disbelieving that he's real... In shock that I'll be 8 months next week.
    Physically I feel miserable. I think that's par for the course here. Everything hurts and I cry when I drop things...
    It's starting to sink in, though. I don't know if people can understand what I'm talking about. Richy and I will be driving and tell each other... we're going to have a baby. He will ride right here in this car. And it still seems imaginary.
    We put up the tree last night. Very exciting! I'll post a picture when we make an upstairs.

    Julie, Andy, and Sharon and Nathan Schluter!
  • Saturday, December 3, 2005

    Don't get me wrong. My weekends have no distinction from my weeks.
    Thus, I could write a thoughtful and engaging blog entry today. But the
    response is so minimal... usually just animal-type creatures
    threatening each other....
    For you- the weekend means you're off work- or your spouse is- time to
    crush them into some hard labor around the house or go gallivanting
    For me- scrounge for some breakfast and go back to bed. Try not to
    watch People's Court.
    I'm not feeling sorry for myself. I am cooking a wonderful baby and I
    can do so for a couple more months if necessary. It's just that the
    pattern doesn't change much on the "weekend".
    Today, Richy is recording. I may waddle over there and listen to drums
    being tweaked for hours... or some other minute detail of a
    Aah a horrible foul poopy diaper just walked by. See you later.

    Friday, December 2, 2005

    I'm back. We also went to "Starbox" Coffee and Donuts... advertising
    that they serve beakfast.

    And at Dollar G, we bought bottled water and popsicles... just the

    Congrats to Julie on 30 weeks and Crystal on 37.... the majority of
    pollsters voted for Dec 4-10 for Crystal's Isaac.... we shall see... my
    guess already passed...
    And HAPPY BIRTHDAY to Stephanie Clark and Lindsey Crouse!

    My mind is pretty blank this morning. I will have to come up with a
    topic, but ......
    maybe Mama or Georgia are around?? Yes??
    Maybe a little eggnog.

    Thursday, December 1, 2005

    ATTENTION: In the comment section of this post, I made a joke about contracting, etc. I, and sincerely regret this joke. It was alarming and in poor taste. I, and are very sorry. Please do not bring any bad music to my house, nor cease your gifts of chocolate. If it would not put me in labor, I would give myself 50 lashes with a horsewhip. I do not deserve clothing or a roof over my head. I am a bad person. I have bad hair. I have cellulite. I am sorry.

    A subject of great interest to me is/are urban legends. A subject of
    great interest to me is urban legends. Hmmm. Something wacky there.
    Anyhoo. Some of you know what I refer to. An irate customer at Neiman
    Marcus is charged 300 bucks for a cookie recipe. Only not.
    Various disgusting elements found in fast food. Not true. Now, for some
    glutens or grease or maybe even hair, sure. But the stuff in legends is
    much grosser.
    Of course, various warnings: men hiding under your car at Kroger. Men
    hiding in your backseat. Toxic mascara. Sunscreen. Men who meow. When
    you try to find the cat- WHAMMO. And was that an eclipse or an
    Death is imminent.
    Forward this email and the FBI will track how many people get it.
    Computer viruses galore. Death to your PC is imminent.
    Poor sick child wants this email to get to a million people.
    The worst one is "Ban on Religious Programming" otherwise known as
    Petition 2493. The goverment actually has an official office to deal
    with this rumor. They spend hundreds of thousands of dollars answering
    questions and dealing with petitions, etc.... There is no Petition

    Very interesting stuff. Every time I get an email warning me of
    imminent death/terrorism/natural disaster/commercial injustice/cookie
    recipes... I go look it up. Most of the time it's hooey.

    (you can look up hoaxes on or - or you could go to the accused company's site. They usually have rebuttals)
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