Friday, June 11, 2010

Adoption and Money part III: Why should I pay for YOUR kid?

Maybe you're asking yourself, "What the heck, self? Why should I pay for somebody else's kid? Nobody paid for my kid." or some such. Let me try to help out.
Let me throw the disclaimer in here that I am talking about adoption in general, and not our adoption specifically. Obviously we are fundraising, but more importantly, I just want to shed some light on the whole topic.
One of the key elements you have to understand about adoption is - the kid is already here. We are talking about a person, in utero or out of it, that has already joined our world and will live here, one way or another. Adoption is one way to provide that child a healthy, stable family. 

Because it is so expensive, and because it is a mercy ministry, and because it is time sensitive, fundraising is extremely common, in churched and unchurched circles, among all income levels. Go take a spin around the web; it's easy to find.  

Fundraisers, and adoption, are about the child. It's time sensitive, because by the time you are in the process, a baby is already on its way, or a child is already being passed through the system. Taking a 10 year break to save $30,000 extra is not really practical when it comes to adoption, it has to be done quickly. 

So, then, what about missionaries? People raising support- should they adopt? Yes. 

If that offends you to think of people raising support and helping orphans, then don't send them money. The truth is, missions is  a job, and the people who support missionaries do so out of confidence and faith that they are paying for a good thing. They believe in what they support, and they pave the way for missionaries to give themselves to causes that don't pay a salary. Adoption is a natural response of a missions heart. 

Adoption is a ministry. It is a way that people add to their families, too, and that's great, but ultimately it is an attempt to give a child a better life. That cause should move your heart. It moves the heart of God. 

So, if you know of someone who is in the process of adopting, and you want to join with them and God in protecting the fatherless, then you have been given an opportunity, a door. That’s what it is. It’s a chance to be part of something bigger than yourself. Take it or leave it. 


  1. You have addressed a very pertinent topic.

    Not easy, to say the least.

    I never EVER thought about fundraising for adoption and now you have explained, it makes total sense.

    I love you, my friend!

  2. Well said Jess. Everyone I've EVER know has fundraised for adoption. It's usually communities who are yet to be familiar with adoption that don't yet understand. God expand all our hearts! Make us givers!

  3. much to think about here. good stuff

  4. i loved hearing your heart on all this today... thanks for being you and being true...


  5. I think that you two should adopt a child every two years..... you know... when you get this little mr. man out of diapers and you naturally start yearning for another baby ...... adopt another...... You two should have 10 kids..... you should.
    Being Addicted to Adoption is a good thing..
    so many babies out there need mommies and daddies who love them. This sweet little guy is so blessed already to be chosen by God to be raised as a Clarkie and Bedste's 14th. What a great life indeed.

  6. Loooooooooooooove this! Perfectly put. Awesome. I've writte many a post on this and I always love reading the way others put into words the heart of God. Great post!

  7. hi! you don't know me...but i just saw a link via tracie loux on facebook that you'd been matched and since i love reading random blogs i jumped onto it! You are hilarious. Anyway- my real reason for commenting is to ask if I could borrow this post?! i am wanting to write a few posts a month on adoption (our domestic adoption thru hannah's dream was just finalized a few weeks ago) and i LOVED how you answered this question. I promise to give you props ;) Don't worry, I understand if you want to say no, but yeah, just figured it wouldn't hurt to ask.
    Keep writing- highly entertaining and tear- jerking too. - krista

  8. Thanks, Krista! Sure you can use it :)


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